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You might be surprised to learn this but when I got married, I didn’t have a big wedding. I know, right? The wedding decorator didn’t have a big wedding?! For shame!

So imagine my surprise, when a few years ago, my friend handed all her bridesmaids (which included me) these amazing gift bags, including overnight travel bags, pretty jewelry and customized purses. And when I saw Jewels of Denial, I instantly thought — “perfect bridesmaid gifts.”

I know they have a bit of a silly site name, but bear with me. The necklace above — gorgeous, and its only $19.99. And the charm bracelet, which happens to be sterling silver, is just $18.99. In fact, most of their jewelry is really affordable. So if you happen to have a lot of bridesmaids, you can really wow them with great bridesmaid gifts, without totally breaking the bank.

The company’s best sellers seem to be their enamel rings, like this pretty one in purple. It’s just $8.99! So, ahem, if you plan to be buying jewelry in bulk, don’t forget to sign up for their email newsletter – you’ll get a 20% off coupon.

This post is sponsored by Jewels Of Denial.

Get ready, get set, go bridal show!

Photo by Flickr’s Schminktante

Bridal show season is in full swing, and I’m mulling the idea of attending the biggie one here in L.A. — the two-day BrideWorld convention at the L.A. Convention center. I’ve been to one bridal show before (I know, right, weird for a wedding decorator), and it was not a good experience. I was a teenager, hanging around, taking pictures as my mom helped someone else set up for a show. I took pictures of a cool balloon display, and the owner of the shop the display belonged to made me take out my film for taking a picture of her display. That was inexcusably mean in my opinion, but people are people.

So trust me when I say bridal shows intimidate me.

So as I updated my list of L.A.-area bridal shows, I noticed an article about preparing so you can get the most out of a bridal show. I’m all about preparing, and I’m all about getting the most bang for your buck. So these tips really made sense to me:

Just as bridal fairs help you prepare for your wedding, you should properly prepare for the fair. Like a good general drawing up battle plans before engaging his forces, you’ll benefit from your own plan of attack—making a checklist of required services, accessories and design questions will streamline your efforts.

Pre-registering for these events saves you time at check-in, and often a few bucks. Don’t forget to print out directions before you hit the road. Wear comfortable clothes and shoes—you’re going to be doing a lot of walking. Bring a large bag, backpack, or even a carry-on with wheels: you’re going to be grabbing a lot of brochures and free magazines. Pack your checkbook and also some cash. There are usually special sales on items such as jewelry cleaner or cool accessories, and not everyone takes plastic. You’re going to be exchanging business cards, so have a case to keep the ones you hand out and collect. Pre-printed address labels or an address stamp are handy when signing up for mailing lists. Your PDA or appointment book makes for convenient scheduling. Micki Love suggests that brides who have already purchased their gown bring a color swatch along—useful when browsing jewelry, tiaras, and other accoutrements. And although you’ll be snacking at the fair, it’s a good idea to eat a small meal before setting out—it will keep you from wolfing down an excessive number of teriyaki chicken wings and mini-quiches.

The most important thing to bring with you is a companion, someone to bounce ideas off of or keep you from making an impulsive decision you may later regret. Pamela Noxon advises attending one show with a friend or relative, and another with your fiancé. (Giving your husband-to-be the illusion of having input into the wedding will disguise the fact that you’re actually the one calling the shots!)

Read the entire article for more tips. Happy hunting!

Find a Wedding Photographer: Lori Anderson

The best way to find a wedding photographer is by referral in my opinion, and I’m about to give you a testimony. Meet Lori Anderson, freelance photographer.

Photos by Lori Anderson


They say a photo speaks a thousand words, and I really think that Lori’s photos speak for themselves.


I have a background with Lori, by the way. She and I worked at the Cal State Fullerton Daily Titan together, her with the website and me with the news side. I can tell you from experience this woman works hard and smart.


In college, Lori blew me away with her forethought on our newspaper website — which won many awards — and not only that, when she began designing, she became the designer I wanted designing my special project. Really.


So if you’re lucky enough to come across Lori in your quest to plan your wedding — ask her not just about her photography, which is beautiful, but also ask her about designing your wedding site and maybe your invitations. Talk about one stop shop!

Poll: What to cut on a tight wedding budget?

I work in news, and probably 50% of the stories I’ve been putting online lately have had to do with the economy, gas prices, food prices, housing prices. With all the belt-tightening going on, I’m sure some brides have had to make hard decisions when it comes to their big day.

So I got to thinking…if things were all of a sudden more expensive than you had budgeted for, what would you do? Would you start asking relatives for money? Would you take out a loan (please, don’t!)? Would you consider cutting down on stuff?

Ah, there’s the million dollar question! I know that a wedding day should be THE big day, but the reality is, sometimes, there are some hard choices to be made. So what hard choices would you make? Vote to let us know!

If you had to skimp on one thing in your wedding budget, what would it be?
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I’ll revisit this post later on. In the meantime, if anyone has any real-life stories or tips they’d like to share, by all means, please do so. The comments go right to my email!

Decorating gazebos and arches for a wedding

Ah, summer. This is the time for outdoor weddings. In my experience, most people want to have the wedding ceremony outdoors but the reception indoors. If you think about it, the ceremony is the most important part of the wedding, but most of the planning goes into the reception. Let’s change that!

Here, my girlfriend Sam and her husband Jason married on the beach under a wooden arch decorated with bright yellow flowers. An arch is really the easiest thing outdoors — they’re portable (but can get heavy) and easy to decorate. Decorating them is as easy putting English netting or a brightly colored material on them — you don’t even have to tape or wire it, you can just weave or twine it in. In this case, Sam’s florist attached a big arrangement of yellow gerber daisies to the top, on top of tulle that went along the sides of the arch. Easy as pie. Oh, and don’t forget those yellow lilies halfway down!

Photo by Flickr’s ronsho

Another easy option outdoors is a canopy. I found this lovely example on Flickr. This canopy could have been built from scratch and decorated on the spot. I don’t think it would have been hard. It appears the top of the canopy has a white material — possibly English netting or tulle (which is a little harder than English netting) stretched across the top and wrapped along each of the poles holding the canopy together. Along each of the legs are billowing lengths of English netting. In this case, I’m sure its English netting because of how its flowing. Anyway, the legs also seem to be paired with spotlights, for that awesome, uplit effect. There also appears to be green Christmas ornaments hung on the canopy, giving the corners a tinge of green light. Very pretty.

Photo by Flickr’s drew313

Here’s another example of a canopy. I actually happened to attend this wedding too — this is my high school bud Janet, getting married in 2006, at the Laguna Cliffs Marriott. I think this canopy is a permanent structure, just because there are so many flower arrangements on it — it better be steady! Plus, it was windy that day — my husband and I were appointed to be the ones lighting the unity candle, and it would not stay lit! Anyway, Janet’s florist used big lush roses, stargazers, lilies, orchids and Casablanca lilies to great effect in the three main arrangements. Plus, there was the green garland connecting the three. Throw in a few mini arrangements in the corner, and you’ve got a gorgeous ceremony!

Ah, but then there are gazebos. Gazebos are permanent structures, generally built in place and you can’t move them. Unlike arches and canopies, they have walls, but I have found that the walls don’t really play too much of a part when it comes to decorations.

Photo by Flickr’s Wedding or Party Decorations

Most gazebos at wedding venues are not four-sided structures, so the decorations tend to focus on the posts holding up the roof. For example, with this white gazebo, it looks like there are eight posts, but only six are decorated — the six that will be center stage when the ceremony is happening. This went all out, using a garland of light pink, dark pink and white flowers to decorate the entire front top of the gazebo and creating six round arrangements for the six posts to be decorated. Oh, and not only that, there is the draping — English netting along the top and covering each of the posts. That’s a lot of work.

Photo by Flickr’s Vickylaflamme11

This gazebo is a little simpler. It’s draped with English netting all along the top of the front and along the front posts. However, I am a little flummoxed as to why they didn’t just paint it white. It would make it look more like a wedding venue.

Wedding and money horror stories

Photo by Flickr’s dkcameo

Personal finance guru Michelle Singletary wryly noted in her Washington Post column last week that wedding season can often bring family and money together with disastrous results. In fact, aren’t there cardinal rules about that, akin to don’t talk religion or politics at the dinner table? Something along the lines of don’t mix business with family or friends? There should be. Anyway, she pulled together just a few horrific stories.

Another egregious money story started in a Las Vegas wedding chapel. The bride and groom decided to go it alone and didn’t invite any guests. Then the bride’s cousin decided to get married. A friend of the cousin was throwing her a bridal shower. So how did the bride who had no guests at her wedding respond? Since she never had a bridal shower, she suggested that everyone at her cousin’s shower bring a gift for her, too.

Wow! That woman had some serious balls, asking people to bring a second gift for her to someone else’s bridal shower. I think, in a case like that, I would have said no. What’s the lady going to do? Not invite me to her wedding? Oh, wait, she already did that!

During a reception, four members of the groom’s family decided to order a dish that was different from what other guests were eating. This was not for any religious or health reasons. They just didn’t like what was being served. So these rogue guests bullied the waiter into bringing them ahi tuna entrees. The bride’s dad got stuck with the tab — in addition to having to pay for the meals the pushy guests didn’t eat.

Wow. Not only did they not eat the dinner served, they made the waiter bring them ahi tuna — often one of the most expensive dinners you can get at a restaurant, never mind a hotel catering kitchen. Obviously, this is just plain rude. If you don’t like the food, don’t eat it and just make plans to go somewhere else for a late dinner! Sheesh. Talk about no class.

Usually, the easiest way to avoid these kinds of money-grubbing stunts is to pay for everything yourself. That way, if you don’t want to listen to your mom or your aunt or your mother-in-law-to-be tell you how this photographer is the greatest and that florist is just to die for, you don’t have to. Easy. Yeah, I know, easier said than done.

Just a few flowers needed at a St. Louis loft-style reception

As a florist’s daughter and former wedding decorator, I know I should encourage brides to inundate their weddings with flowers and decorations. Honestly? You don’t need a whole lot for big impact. A friend of the Wedding Decorator (also a fellow journalist), Shruti Mathur, sent over some lovely photos of a wedding she attended recently in St. Louis over the Memorial Day holiday. Yes, I know, its already June 2, but I was on vacation. And it was my birthday. Anyway, on to the wedding pictures.

All photos by Shruti Mathur

When it comes to a party, think of what you need — good food, good conversation, maybe some light (although, that’s optional) and enough decor to enhance the surroundings — not become the surroundings. That’s what happened here. These are orchids strewn artfully over the guest tables around votive candles. In a space like this one, I don’t think you need much more.


With money being tight all across the board, choosing a high-impact color like red can go a long way in a gorgeous space like this one. This wedding reception was at Windows on Washington, a loft-style space in St. Louis. In this picture, you get to see some of the cool features of the room, like the exposed pipes and gorgeous brick walls.

By the way, this bridesmaid’s bouquet is pretty, right? It’s very simple, very colorful, wrapped in blue ribbon. Oh, but wait, there’s more!


I’m pretty sure these bouquets also doubled as centerpieces for certain tables — probably sponsor tables or wedding attendant tables. It’s a good way to make the flowers play more than one part and save some money.


Here’s the all important sweetheart table. Incidentally, I love this photo, since it captures the little boy tracing his finger along the window also. But you’re not interested in that! This sweetheart table is topped with an elaborate bouquet with vibrant red gerber daisies, roses and orchids. Oh, but wait! I think this arrangement looks familiar — it also served as the bridal bouquet.


Here’s a side view of the sweetheart table. The whole place looks so charming.


Mmmmm, cake. Wedding cake is almost always better, too. This cake is almost a decoration unto itself, banded with blue ribbon. Red orchids are also strewn on the table — nice contrast.