A Minnesota Desi wedding

By Shruti Mathur Desai

You may recognize my name from reporting back to Wedding Decorator about the various weddings I’ve attended. But now I’ve been invited to write a bit about a very special wedding (to me): My own!

A bit of background: My fiance Ravi and I met on our second day of college at the University of Minnesota. It took us a year to start dating, but it’s been eight wonderful years with him! Last September, he ambushed me with a surprise proposal and on July 4, 2009, we were married at the Crowne Plaza Hotel in St. Paul Minnesota.

I will spread out my wedding planning process over a few posts and I hope to add layers with pictures, as they come in from my talented friends and family.

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Big weddings go budget

If you keep up with current events as I have to for the day job, you know that the news is brimming with doom and gloom when it comes to the economy, even when it comes to happy events like weddings and babies. People are holding off on starting their families because of the economy, but at least people aren’t holding off on getting married — they’re just cutting back their wedding budgets.

Flickr photo by FamilyMan5k

The L.A. Times ran down the budget cutback details of one bride — invitations from Costco, a wedding cake baked by an aunt, wedding rings bought with coupons.

Scaled back, downgraded, digitized and homespun, weddings are getting a major economic makeover this year. While the number of weddings scheduled to take place in the U.S. in 2009 remains steady at 2.2 million, a recent “What’s on Brides’ Minds” survey conducted for gown emporium David’s Bridal found that 75% of brides-to-be said they would have to make adjustments to their wedding budget as a result of the economic climate. The average cost of a couple’s publicly traded “I do’s” is now $19,212, down 33% from its peak of $28,732 in 2007, according to the Tucson-based research firm the Wedding Report.

In the same issue of the LAT, there was also a story about the shift toward simpler i.e. more inexpensive wedding dresses. Now, I know I basically am part of the industry, but truly I applaud these changes and shifts toward simplicity — amid all the details, brides tend to forget that the whole point of all the hoopla is to get married.

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Dress up one candle to be a centerpiece

Jinah’s wedding is fast approaching, so I’m in prep mode. Just this week, I’ve set up time to go pick up some materials from my siblings to decorate with, I’m bugging a florist I’ve worked with before on the pricing of flowers and now I’m fretting a little over the candle arrangement plan we have for her guest tables. Right now, the plan is simply to place a 2×2 pillar candle in one of the vases that we picked up from Big Lots (really!) and surround it with four votives. However, now I’m fretting that this is too simple.

Flickr photo by DrGBB

So I began perusing Flickr for idea. There are a lot of people using candles nowadays for their centerpieces to cut down on costs. However, if you’re not careful, you could end up spending way more on a candle arrangement than on a flower arrangement if you go overboard. Plus, don’t forget that most people are not florists and don’t have access to real wholesale prices. So my thought is — how do you dress up one candle without breaking the bank?

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Save lots on candles at Big Lots

So everyone is trying to save money, right? One way to save money is to go without flowers and just set up a candle arrangement. But if you’re not careful, you could spend just as much on a candle arrangement as you would on flowers. So I suggest you visit your local Big Lots.

Is Big Lots a store you wouldn’t be caught dead in? Too bad…whenever it comes time to do Christmas decorating at my church, Big Lots is my first stop. Turns out, its a good spot to find candles and candle accessories too, for cheap.
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Visiting a wholesale candle store in North Hollywood

Jinah, the intrepid bride trusting utterly in my “expertise,” tasked me recently with finding a place that sells candles for wholesale prices. She wants lots of lights and candles for her evening, outdoor wedding, so candles and hurricanes to enclose the flames are a must.

Now, I realize all too well that “wholesale” is often a misnomer. If a place advertises itself as wholesale, its often to attract people looking for wholesale prices who won’t do too much comparison shopping. Often, if the place is truly wholesale, you wouldn’t even know it. Actual wholesalers require business licenses or some such documentation so they can give you a true wholesale price.

But, we had to go check it out. Via Google, I found General Wax and Candle Company in North Hollywood. So, getting lost just once, I met up with Jinah to check out what the General had to offer.

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Wedding Week at WashingtonPost.com

Is the week after Valentine’s Day the perfect week to declare Wedding Week? I daresay, yes, it is!

Not surprisingly, they’re focusing pretty tightly on budgets, but weddings are so easy to do a whole bunch of stories on — just from this screenshot, there’s bridal gowns, flowers, wedding etiquette, and oh, yeah, marital bliss.

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Get married at home

It has occurred to me recently that so many people have really beautiful homes, so why are hotels and other venues the only places we think of when planning a wedding? The thought didn’t come completely out of the blue — a friend of mine is getting married in April and will be doing it at a Malibu home. More on that later. Anyway, having a wedding at home used to be the standard, not the exception, unlike today. When scouring Flickr — and I mean clicking through the hundreds of pages of thumbnails tagged “home wedding” — I found very few pictures that actually fit the keywords. One photo I definitely wanted to share was this one from the ’30s. It was a simpler time…

Photo by Flickr’s Dan Kroesbergen

I don’t think I’ve ever decorated someone’s home — a house someone was actually living in at the time — for a wedding. Not even my old house in Hacienda Heights, which was gorgeous and beautifully landscaped and probably had the room for such an event. I have decorated venues that were homes but are now dedicated event facilities, like La Venta Inn on the Palos Verdes Peninsula and The Palace in Hancock Park (which inexplicably has no website address!).

But as with all things, there are many things to consider when having a wedding at home.

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